Latest update???

He he he... Ternyata aku mmg pemalas ler bila masuk tang update-mengupdate nie... Bukan apa, mmg xde apa nak update pun... Lepas bebudak tu balik, kitorg mmg xde aktiviti apa2 pun... Kalau weekend pun, duk rumah je la... Bosan giler... Tu yg xde idea nk tulis apa nie... Nk snap gambar pun malas...  Suppose time spring nie la time org pi jln2... Kadang2 tu bukannya xde masa, just malas je nk g mana2... So lps antar Amni kat skolah, aku trus balik rumah... Paling2 pun singgah Lewisham beli mkanan sambil berwindow shopping... Kena plak Freeda skrg duk study utk final exam on 2nd June nie... So mmg terperap je la aku kat umah... May be lps dia abis exam n lps Amni start cuti skolah nnt, baru plan g mana2 kot... Tgk la camana yee...

Mcmana nak menarik minat suami utk bantu buat kerja rumah...

Aku terpanggil utk menggoreng tajuk ni sbb slalu terbaca dalam facebook pasal kwn2 pompuan yg komplen husband depa xpernah tlg buat keje rumah. Aku plak skrg kat London, menganggur sambil teman bini further study and sbb xde keje (and susah nk dpt keje yg sesuai ngan time), aku just handle anak n rumah jer... Meaning aku bgn awal, siapkan anak utk ke skolah (kejut, mandi, pakaikan baju, buat breakfast, antar n ambik dr skolah), masak, g pasar, buat laundry, kemas rumah etc etc etc... To a certain extend, aku OK je rasa nk buat suma tu even though kerap gak aku rasa nk keje, but mostly sbb aku x suka bila aku xde duit dlm poket n bila aku xleh beli apa aku nak...

So, berat sgt ke buat keje rumah? Xde laa... Unless kalau pemalas gila2 or dia bz gila2, keje rumah ni patutnya senang laa... Cuma bergantung kepada keadaan hidup korang je... Meaning, kalau korang or laki korang keje long hours or slalu balik lambat, may be brapa kerap or mcmana korang arrange keje rumah tu berbeza dgn org lain... Janji korang OK ngan arrangement tu, sudah ler... Tp dalam zaman dua2 husband n wife kena keje utk support keperluan keluarga, aku rasa xleh TERIMA bila si suami balik rumah duk depan TV while si isteri duk buat keje rumah sorang2... Kalau isteri tu full time housewife or dua2 keje and ada duit banyak utk gajikan amah or pembantu rumah utk buat suma keje2 tu, then OK laa... Kalau xnak tolong bnyk pun, at least tolong buat yg basic2 pun cukup ler... Even Nabi Muhammas S.A.W pun tolong bini dia buat keje rumah, masak, menjahit etc, kita ni sapa utk buat kurang dr tu???

Tp slalu aku x penah ckp apa2 la kalau ternampak kwn2 or sesapa yg aku kenal duk buat camtu... Tiap pasangan ada cara masing2... So kena set method masing2 laa... Tp kena tolak ansur la sikit... Kalau nak something, kena mintak / bgtau... Yg sebelah pihak lg kena la sensitif skit... Sbb kalau nk harap pasangan anda MEMAHAMI anda 100%, sampai mati pun xkan jd... So kalau terlebih terkurang tu, bertolak ansur la ye... Kalau nk apa2, CKP elok2... DAN jgn memBEBEL... X susah... So mcmana nk suruh husband korang tolong korang buat keje rumah??? Mungkin cara2 kat bwh buleh membantu... Tp kalau husband anda tu mmg PEMALAS, tuhan aje la yg tahu caranya...

1) Mintak tolong
Cara ni straight forward tp x ramai guna, paling ramai yg salah guna... Jgn harap husband anda tau automatically apa yg anda nak or anda fikir... INGAT! Husband anda bukan MIND-READER... So kalau nk apa2, sila bgtau... Bgtau pun biar elok caranya... Kalau kena cara, rasanya husband anda x keberatan menolong anda buat keje rumah. Tp kalau cara tu x kena, mungkin dengan membebel, ckp kuat, kena plak time dia baru je balik keje etc, husband anda trus xde mood nk tolong...

2) Bahagi tugas mengikut minatnya
Manusia ni ada perkara yg dia mmg x suka buat... Termasuklah dalam hal keje rumah... Contohnya kalau saya, saya mmg x suka lipat baju, iron baju especially baju pompuan, masak dishes yg leceh / complicated etc... Mungkin suami anda pun sama... So bila mood dia bagus, sila slow talk ngan dia pasal hal keje rumah nie... Bgtau dia yg anda perlukan bantuan utk membereskan sebahagian dr keje2 tu... AND tanya jugak apa yg dia suka tolong, kurang suka and mmg x suka... So may be dia boleh bantu dalam keje2 yg dia suka tu... Unless dia mmg x suka langsung, then PAYAH lerrr...

3) Mula sikit2...
Kadang2 si isteri boleh mula sikit2 dgn meminta si suami tu buat keje2 yg simple mcm tolong lap pinggan, buang sampah, basuh kain (sumbat dalam sen je pun), vacuum rumah etc... Then slowly add task tu dgn task2 yg lain... Ini utk membiasakan si suami tu dgn keje2 rumah... Sbb kadang2 sesetgh lelaki rasa ego dia (apa benda yg ego sgt tu, xtau ler...) sbg suami tu tergugat kalau dia buat keje rumah... So slowly bg dia biasakan diri dgn tugas tu... Mula sikit2 and SLOWLY tambah...

4) Cari and sharekan video2 ceramah pasal tanggungjawab suami kat wall FBnya...
Yg nie sgt straight forward... Sebabnya keje rumah ni sbnrnya tanggungjawab suami... Cuma kalau zaman dulu, si suami kerja n sara keluarga... Maknanya si isteri dirumah sbg surirumah, so kerja rumah diserah kepada isteri... Tp zaman sekarang, secara umumnya kalau nk harapkan pendapatan si suami je, alamat x lengkap or pasangan / keluarga tu terpaksa hidup dgn sederhana sahaja... Unless si suami tu bergaji mahal dan sbgnya, then mungkin si isteri x perlu buat kerja rumah langsung sbb suaminya mampu menggaji amah utknya... So dgn harapan suami tu sedar yg kerja rumah jugak tanggungjawabnya bila dia dgr ceramah2 tu...

5) Bgtau apa expectation anda
Sebelum husband anda mula buat keje rumah tu, sila bgtau dia apa expection anda... May be ada cara2 yg tertentu yg anda nk dia ikut atau mcmana hasil akhir yg anda expected... Jgn nnt bila dh siap, baru nk bgtau... Takut nnt dia xmau tolong dh... Serik!!! Mungkin anda buleh buat demo dulu kat dia, bg dia tgk mcmana cara yg betul utk buat kerja tu...

6) Jangan tegur
Masa husband korang tgh duk buat keje rumah tu, jgn bnyk sgt tegur... Takut nnt dia fed up... Yg ni pun sama mcm yg point no. 5, may be anda buleh tunjuk demo dulu... So anda x payah nk tegur2 dia dh... Kalau nk tegur pun, sikit2 je... Banyak2 kang dia hangin plak...

7) Jgn komplen / cerewet
Bila si suami tu mula membantu, jgn banyak songeh!!! Kalau anda rasa yg kerja yg dibuat tu x sebagus anda and x layak dipuji, paling kurang pun jgn komplen... Sbb bila anda komplen, anda sebenarnya membantutkan moodnya utk terus membantu anda buat kerja rumah tersebut. Jugak jgn re-DO the job depan dia, sbbnya bila anda buat semula (contoh LIPAT BAJU), dia akan rasa yg kejenya sia2... Baik dia x payah buat trus... Paling bagus jika berikan sedikit pujian then baru bgtau mcmana nak improvekannya kelak...

8) Puji
Then kalau quality kerjanya makin elok, puji2 la skit... Ini penambah semangat utk trus membantu anda di masa depan... Bg la kwn tu rasa seronok skit utk tolong anda...

Tu je la kot utk setakat nie... Kalau ada point2 lain, nnt la aku tambah ye....

Trip to south UK

Hi...


Lama x update nie... Ari tu duk excited tunggu anak2 sedara datang ke London... Anith sampai 20 April dr Southampton and Aimi plak sampai 21 April malam dr Malaysia... N skrg sibuk duk bwk depa pi jalan2... Syok sungguh!!! Full pack program... Tiap2 ari pun tido x cukup... Nak borak2 pun x puas... Cuaca plak panas mcm Malaysia n siang makin panjang... Pukul 8 mlm tu mcm kul 6 ptg jer... Mmg best la jalan2...

First day tu kami ke Ashford Designer Outlet kat Ashford, Canterbury... Best gak, outlet terbesar setakat ni... Tempat pun bagus sbb x crowded sgt... Kebanyakkan brand ada kat situ, lebih kurang mcm Gunwharf Quays laa... Cuma Timberland je yg xde... Distance pun x jauh, sejam je drive dr London... Lepas shopping tu, kami sightseeing pulak... Kami ke Canterbury Cathederal. Pi pun x lama... Duk situ dalam sejam lebih jer sbb hari dh makin gelap... Just pi snap2 gambar je laa... Kemudian kami ke Whitstable... Saja je nak tgk rumah diorg dulu... Rumahnya masih lebih kurang sama tp tempat tu dh sedikit berubah. Then lepas snap gambar skit, kami drive balik ke Ladywell...

The next day tu, kami ke Portsmouth pulak... Ke Gunwharf Quays... Saja je jalan2 sambil shopping... Ramai org kalau nk dibandingkan dgn masa kitorg mula2 dtg dulu... Brg2 pun sikit mahal... May be sbb ramai org time tu, so diorg markup harga la sikit. Lepas shopping n mkn, kami ke Southampton... Destinasi pertama ialah bilik hostel Anith utk rehat n sembahyang... Kemudian kami ke tasik utk tgk2 n lepak2... Lepas tu kitorg pusing2 bandar Southampton... Tempatnya mcm bandar2 lain kat UK, mandom skit... Then kitorg ke rumah Cik Pah utk menumpang tido. Sempat gak la mkn2 n jumpa 2 undergrads student. Ramai gak komuniti Malaysian kat sini. Meriah la berbanding London.

Next day, kitorg ke rumah Kak Lis utk breakfast. Mmg dh plan utk ke carboot sale utk jln2. Lepas tu kami ke Stonehenge utk tgk batu. Tempat tu kat tgh2 padang. Panas plak tu tp ramai je yg dtg... Heran sungguh aku... Then kitorg ke Bath, jugak utk buat benda boring... Which is tgk rumah mandi... Tp kitorg x masuk sbb kena bayar jugak, and also because mahal... So kitorg just snap some serrounding photo je laa sblm balik... Perjalanan dr Bath ke London mengambil masa 3 jam... Jauh gak la... Kena plak keta abis minyak enjin  on the way back... Kena plak tunggu 2 jam utk mekanik sampai... Kitorg sampai rumah kul 10 lebih mlm... Mengantuk n penat giler...

Ari ni geng pompuan ke London city... Aku n Amni x ikut... Aku malas nk bwk Amni sebenarnya... Then nak rest gak... Depa pi shopping, jln2 n tgk MAMA MIA!!! Esok plannya ke Paris... Camana citernya nnt, aku xtau laa... Nnt la aku bgtau...

April 2011 - Cuti skolah... Spring!!!

Hi...

Lama x update blog ni... Xde idea laa... Time x duk depan laptop nie, bnyk plak ideanya... Bila duk je depan laptop, idea suma ilang... Tensen btul... Ni plak Amni dh cuti skolah... Sampai hujung bulan... Mmg x g mana la aku jawabnya... Kalau dia kat skolah, buleh gak la aku merayap pi mana2... Cuaca tgh elok nie... 2-3 ari lepas, panas elok jer... Member aku cakap mcm summer... Ni balik ke normal spring weather... More mendung... Tp siang makin panjang nie... Subuh masuk kul 4 pg and isyak kul 9 mlm... Kalau nk jalan2 mmg bagus sgt laa...

Ni pun tgh tunggu easter break... Anith n Aimi datang... Buleh la bwk depa pi merayap mana2... Hajatnya nak ke Portsmouth lg... Buleh la shopping2 kat sana. Then ke Southampton, Stonehenge dan Kent. On 26th, ke Paris for 1 day trip. Apa yg bestnya x tau laa... Ikut ajer... Ari tu masa krismas, xleh g mana sgt... Sejuk n xde geng... Ni bebudak ni dtg, OK la skit. Baru syok...

Sedar2, dah 6 bulan lebih kitorg kat UK ni... Kejap giler... Lg 2 tahun dah balik Malaysia... Surely akan miss certain things kat sini... Mostly the mild weather, cheap food items, good public transportation, those kebabs and burgers etc... Kat Malaysia xde suma tu... Kalau nk ada pun, Carl's Jr je la... Tu pun kena turun KL... Nanti balik, kena transfer mana plak pun xtau lg... Harap2 dapat tempat yg senang aku nak keje, OK la... Kot dapat tempat yg leceh nk keje, mmg haru laaa... Apa bisnes aku nk buat? Sighh... Ntah ler... Aku malas nk pikir lg... Pikir skrg pun buat penat jer... Kan?

Hi again...

Not quite sure what to write these days... Nothing much happened... Amni's back to school, so I have some personal time at home... But still, only have a glimmer of ideas for the updates. May be I should rename this blog...

It's early spring now. A bit better compared to winter previously... More and more days with sunshine... That's good... But the days is getting longer and longer... It's not a bad thing except the subuh prayer (Morning prayer) time started early. So if I wakes up at 6.30am, I could barely able to complete the prayer on time. So when I got up earlier, then I need to wait longer before I could wakes Amni up and prepare her for school... Hmmm...

Also still waiting for Mr. George to come back from his vacation. Already called his place a few times to inform him about the leaking from the ceiling but I was informed that he'll be back today. So I'm going to call him again today. Hopefully he could repair those leaks as soon as possible.

As for today's dishes, I still don't know what to cook... May be just a simple dishes will do. I think I'll start cooking after fetch Amni from school since Freeda will be quite late today. Hopefully I could think of some nice dishes today... Good luck for me then...

What to say???

Hi all...
So sorry for no updates for a few days already... It's Amni's school holiday... And I just happened to be at home for the whole week... Nothing happened since the day I went to the Billingsgate Fish Market previously... Furthermore, it's still winter.... Even though the springs started to crept in, it's still quite cold these few days.... The only outing that we did is a walk to the Ladywell Park and also to the Hilly Field Playground... Pity Amni but surely I won't take her out if it's rain or rather cold, right???
The school will resume again on tuesday and I already told Amni that she need to start sleep early again.... Previously before school holiday, it would be very easy taking care of her as she always sleep very early, around 9.00nto 9.30 pm. Also very happy to wake up for school. She likes it very much. May be because the school system is very different compared to Malaysia where it's more playing and surely less homework... The most that she need to do is some writing, coloring and 2 very simple story book to read each week. How nice...
I could see that she's so eager to go to school again... May be she missed her friends a lot... Well, I'll feel the same way if I need to just stay at home for the whole week doing nothing... But since she started attending the school almost one and a half month ago, I see a lot of changes in her... She seems to be happier, less moody and she did try to converse in english a lot... Now everytime I spoke in malay with her, she surely replies in english... Complete with english accent... I still trying to adapt myself to the british's english which quite different compared to the american's english, which I so get used to...
In a way, I'm looking forward to another school period for Amni which also means that I'll have something to do everyday rather than stuck at home doing nothing... Adios...

Kembali merepek....

Hi...
So sorry sbb lama tak membebel kat wall nie... Aku duk spend masa tgk NCIS Season 7... Dah abis dh semlm, nie duk tgk Season 8 plak... Lepas abis episode 14, aku nak tgk Lie To Me plak... Dah download dh 2 season... Xde benda sgt la 2-3 ari nie.
Tapi ari sabtu pagi baru nie, aku ada pi Billingsgate Fish Market, pasar pagi yg sebijik mcm Pasar Borong Selayang. Cuma yg nie dia just jual seafood... Suma ada dr fresh salmon, kord, ketam, udang, sotong to frozen seafood... Suma jual borong... Best giler... Kalau ler freezer kat umah nie besar, mmg heaven la kalau nak beli seafood kt situ. Mcm2 ada...
Aku beli salmon 2 ekor (€10 sekor), udang sederhana besar 2 kilo (€11 sekilo), Ikan Sebelah 2 ekor, Sea bass sekotak n frozen squid 2 kotak... Abis gak la €60 pg tu... Geram jer nak beli kord, siakap merah etc... Telur ikan pun banyak... Semlm plak aku masak salmon grill 4 ketul, Amni mkn bnyk giler... Syok je tgk... 2 ari lepas, Freeda masak ikan sebelah stim... Kebetulan si Nore dtg...
Ari ni plak aku try masak ikan sea bass singgang serai... Main belasah jer walaupun x cukup bahan... Kena plak Amni skrg cuti seminggu, kena masak utk tghari ler... Tp nampak mcm ok jer dia mkn ikan tu. So utk seminggu nie, aku kena masak awal la tiap ari... Nak bwk Amni g garden pun xleh... Mendung jer... Dah la sejuk giler... Jgn snow udah ler,...
Last week nampak mcm dh nak Spring... Pokok2 and bunga2 pun dh start kluar.... Ni mcm delay skit laa... Anyway, nnt kalau free, aku update ler photo blog aku tu... Bahan bnyk, just ada dlm external HD.... Malas nak korek...